Have we forgotten how to interact with people since we’ve been in our own bubbles for so long? Conversation skills don’t always come naturally and the lack of them can stress us out when it comes to social situations. We’re all different in our conversation abilities but there are plenty of strategies that can help everyone have better conversation skills. Something I remind my Brisbane Life Coach clients of often is that you have more to say than you think in a conversation!
Strategies To Keep A Conversation Going:
• Have an interesting life. When you have a full life that you really enjoy, conversations are going to be a lot less work for you. You’ll have created a never-ending stream of conversation topics if you have a life that really interests you. Tell them about the new hobby you tried out or the great coffee spot you found over the weekend and why you enjoyed it so much.
• Have a few good stories ready to go. Be prepared with a few interesting stories when going into situations that require conversations with people you don’t know. It could be something that happened to you recently, in your childhood, or even something that you read in the news.
• Be a good listener. People love to have conversations with those that are truly listening and paying attention. Give your conversation partner your complete and undivided attention. Maintain good eye contact and stay focused. You’ll be amazed by how much this helps your conversational skills.
• Ask open-ended questions. Avoid asking questions that can be answered with just a word or two. This will help to keep the conversation from dying over and over.
Open-ended Questions Vs. Closed-ended Questions For Conversation:
• Closed-ended: What do you like on your pizza?
• Open-ended: What do you like about camping?
• Closed-ended: What is your favorite sports team?
• Open-ended: If you could travel anywhere, where would you go and why?
• Closed-ended: Where were you born?
• Open-ended: What is your best childhood memory?
When you find yourself searching for a conversation topic, take inspiration from the environment you are in. This is a good way to guide the conversation if you’re struggling a bit. Consider things like:
• The weather
• The people around you
• The artwork on the walls
• The music
• The food
• The trees and flowers
• Anything you can see, hear, smell, taste, or touch
When working on your conversation skills, remember that you need to practice! You can’t become good at anything without practice. Strike up at least one conversation a day – with those you know and strangers. Don’t forget to relax when having a conversation – you don’t have to impress anyone, just enjoy yourself without expectations. If you relax during conversations and interactions with others, your ability to chat with others will really improve. People are drawn to those who are relaxed and confident.
Good conversation skills are invaluable and we’ve all realised just how much we miss them when we can’t have them. These life skills can have a great impact on your social life, career and relationships. Even if you’re not a naturally chatty person, you can learn how to never run out of things to say. If you’re looking for more tips that I use as a Brisbane Life Coach, you can find them by following this link.