How can a life coach help you? Many of you may be wondering what the answer to this question is, depending on what’s happening in your own life. As a Brisbane life coach, I help people rebuild their confidence after they’ve experienced challenges such as relationship break-ups, and I also help them with practical strategies to improve their friendship circles.
This got me to thinking about sharing some tips on how to get people to connect with you and how to make new friendships! How long does it take to make a first impression? Some scientists say that other people draw conclusions about you in as little as two seconds! Two seconds might be enough to get an impression, but there’s still more time available to impress the other person. We’re going to assume that a full 60 seconds is available to you to make a good impression. There are things you can do in 60 seconds to influence others that can’t be accomplished in only two seconds.
1. Smile. You come to a different conclusion when you meet someone that smiles at you versus someone that has a blank expression or appears annoyed. Smiling shows that you’re not a threat, are in a positive mood, and that you feel at ease. These are all good signs. Smiling feels good, too.
2. Use their name. Everyone likes to hear their own name in conversation. If someone says, “How are you doing today, Mary?” it feels a lot better than if your name isn’t mentioned. That doesn’t mean you have to use their name in every other sentence but throwing it out there a time or two will make a big difference.
3. Give them your full attention. Others are very astute at noticing whether you’re paying attention to them or not. It’s very flattering when someone gives us their full attention. Really focus intently on the other person and you’ll make a great impression. They won’t forget you anytime soon either.
4. Dress appropriately. Your appearance matters even if you think it shouldn’t. Dress appropriately for the situation and wear clothes that fit you well.
5. Put your phone away. Put it in your pocket or purse until you actually need it. Certainly, avoid having your phone out while speaking to someone.
6. Make eye contact. Good eye contact shows that you’re attentive and confident. It’s like a smile on steroids. If you get flustered by making strong eye contact, at least keep your gaze near their eyes. Avoid looking at the floor or anywhere else away from their face.
7. Be positive. Be upbeat. Be happy. Give the impression that you love your life and are happy living it. Act like someone you would want to hang around with. Put your best face on.
First impressions count, especially when it comes to job interviews and dates. Making a good first impression is a skill that anyone can develop. A little effort and practice can go a long way toward making the most of your professional and social life. Fortunately, there are plenty of people you can practice your skills on. Use these tips whenever you meet someone new. In fact, these tips will also work on people you already know. Give them a try and notice what happens to your current relationships.